Thursday, April 23, 2015

stress management specialists

The sad thing about stress is often not so much the stress itself, though this is very unpleasant for the person who is stressed, but rather the fear of other people's reactions if the person wishes to confide in a friend, family or work colleague - even stress management specialists. Another sad fact about stress management, and being a stress and anger management professional myself I know this all too well, is the widespread opinion that stress management does not matter; that it is a 'fluffy' concept that is not needed, or is only for weak minded people. We all know the effects that stress can bring about and if you are reading this in search of a cure, or at least some relief, from personal stress or that of a loved one, the effects of stress need no further explanation. 

STRESS MANAGEMENT CAN STOP THE STRESS GETTING WORSE - An old saying comes to mind here that 'a problem shared is a problem halved'. By addressing the stress head-on can immediately stop this stress getting any worse - before stress reduction can begin. 

STRESS MANAGEMENT CAN GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE STRESS - This is often not as easy as it sounds. Stress from the journey to work every morning for example may not actually be the root cause of our stress. Speaking to a stress management professional can actually allow us to get to the root cause of stress - helped by speaking to somebody with wide experience of these matters, but also somebody outside friends or family - something I will discuss shortly.

STRESS MANAGEMENT CAN PROVIDE COPING TECHNIQUES FOR THE FUTURE - Getting to the bottom of the stress is one part of stress management but the other and equally important part of the process is gaining techniques for managing future stress. It is often the case that speaking to a stress management professional, while being a great help and initially relieving the present stress; is of little use if the person is going to get stressed again in the near future.

ENABLES US TO TALK TO AN EXPERIENCED PROFESSIONAL WHO IS COMPLETELY NEUTRAL - It can be difficult discussing anything with family and close friends, especially stress.

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Stress Management Keys

At what age do students have the greatest stress? Older parents say middle school students have the most stress, having just entered adolescence. Stress management among students in universities is a hit-or-miss matter. Some universities schedule optional stress management classes, but students often lack the time to attend.

Stress Management Keys
Specific keys will open the door to better stress management among students in universities. Without them, stress management is limited for the students. 

1. Clear definitions: Effective stress management among students requires clear definitions of words such as "stressor," "stress," "eustress," and "distress." Students who do not understand clearly what stress is cannot be expected to succeed at stress management. They may be trying to manage stressors, thinking they are managing stress. The outcome may very well be increased stress rather than stress management.

Stress management among students in universities can begin only after they understand that the extra demands made upon them are stressors, not stress. They then must understand that their response to those demands constitutes stress.

 2. Action Plan: With a firm understanding of the definitions, students are ready to formulate a stress management action plan. Armed with the knowledge that stress is the response to stressors, students can learn to control that response. 

3. Stressor Identification: An important part of the stress management ambush is to learn to identify the enemy. Every university student has stressors. The key to stress management is to identify those demands as stressors.

4. Turning Distress into Eustress: Another key that helps unlock the doors to stress management is that of turning distress into eustress. Students often act as victims of their stressors. Stress management requires that they learn to turn a potentially negative response to stressors into a positive response.

Stress management among students in universities can be stripped of many programs, drugs, and therapies if these keys are used well.

Wednesday, April 8, 2015


There is a great misconception about a Christian having self esteem. Self esteem
It is a feeling of confidence, being happy with your own character and abilities. It is also known as self- worth. Self esteem is an indwelling virtue. Unlike self esteem, confidence is dynamic. It is the manifestation of the already accumulated in- dwelling self esteem in you. It is like the kinetic energy of the already potential energy (self esteem).

• Fluency in important languages
• Self righteousness
• Knowledge and understanding/ good skills
• Wealth
• Self righteousness/ morality and many more others
• If I need not possess all, which ones in particular are most needed to have self esteem?
Can we get an absolute source of self esteem? If beauty is a factor of self esteem, as it fades away, your self esteem fades as well.

If our focus turns from the Living God to luxury we worship an Idol. Is beauty really an absolute source of self esteem? Remember that, self esteem comes from within, the true virtue and personality of yourself. Ruth 4:21-22 showed the descendants of Ruth. Everything is about self and irrespective of our background; self esteem can be earned in full.

If money or wealth is the source of self- esteem, then a lasting one is beyond achievement. What was God's response? If you think wealth is the absolute source of self esteem, I urge you to reconsider.  

Physical differences
In summary, the heart is the focal point of self esteem. God persisted but Moses insisted as well. If Moses had listened to God and subdued his inferiority, these events would not have happened. You can as well trust God fully for something special.  

Self Righteousness
People around you may respect you, Love you, and regard you with high esteem, but is it an absolute source of self esteem? (Matthew7:6-7; Matthew 23:1-28). The already explained factors may for a time make you highly esteemed, but are never true sources of self- esteem. Ultimately, the true and only source of self- esteem is God, through our Lord and savior Jesus Christ and our Hearts been the medium or determinant factor or focal point in earning absolute self esteem.

On the final note, God is the ultimate source of absolute self- esteem.

Monday, April 6, 2015

Tacit self-esteem

Everyone has a different theory about the root cause of self-esteem, the results of self-esteem, and what steps or skills need to be learned in order to raise self-esteem.

Self-esteem cannot be improved through meditation, oral hygiene, or colon cleansing. Self-esteem is the same measurement only applied to yourself rather than someone else. Self-esteem is a gauge of how positively you view yourself. Just like the esteem you afford a colleague, self-esteem can wax and wane depending on circumstances.

Psychologists identify two categories of self-esteem: Tacit self-esteem is a measure of how we generally feel about ourselves, on average. Stage self-esteem can be lower or higher than our tacit self-esteem. When people confess that they suffer from low self-esteem, it is stage self-esteem that they are usually referring to.

There are a lot of articles that tie self-esteem to self-confidence, but they are not the same. Self-esteem and self-confidence are not the same.

So the question becomes, where does self-esteem come from? You will read articles that claim that low self-esteem causes students to get bad grades or that low self-esteem causes someone to experiment with drugs, abuse alcohol, or causes teenage pregnancy. Some studies have shown that high self-esteem can be more detrimental in some cases than low self-esteem. The fact is that low self-esteem doesn't cause the behaviors; the behaviors cause low self-esteem. Which brings us the answer to our question: How do you raise self-esteem? Well, if negative behaviors lower self-esteem, it makes sense that positive behaviors can raise self-esteem. Since self-esteem is a gauge or measurement for how positively we feel about ourselves, doing something that meets or exceeds our expectations of ourselves will increase our self-esteem. We ridicule ourselves and badger ourselves with negative self-talk which leads to lower self-esteem. We as coaches should stop focusing on improving self-esteem and focus on the root causes of low self-esteem. If a client expresses low stage self-esteem, focus on the event that caused the negative feelings.

Saturday, April 4, 2015

improve self-esteem

Is having low self-esteem (under the psychological ideas of self-esteem) feeling after person did something that hurts others, is that not good.

The way you improve self-esteem is think more highly of your self or love your self more which leads to become more self-centered which is more self love. There is a logic process to the development of self-esteem which is to form self love. The higher self-esteem leads to self-centered ness which can be seen as higher emotional state of self-love then the next stage of development in the logic to the ideas of self-esteem after self-centered ness is narcissism which is the height level of self love.

Self-esteem is what you think and speak about your self while you interact between others and if you have high opinion of your self, that is high self esteem. If you think and speak bad about your self you have low self esteem. If person has high self-esteem can a person do hurtful behavior to others and them self.

Confusion of ideas here can exist within purpose that produce learned self-esteem emotional problems. It is reasonable that the next level of developing self-love which is base in self-esteem is self-centered ness and the highest level of self-esteem is NARCISSISM which is complete love of ones self. Logic would dictate within self-esteem ideas and reasoning more self-esteem is best which develop into the height of self love narcissism.

The idea behind self-esteem is to glorify self-centered ness (self-love) feeling while you interact with others and that promote narcissism.

Self-esteem is a develop idea to deal with what this culture produces in fear on a personal level. So there are physical and emotional fears within people make up and the ideas of self-esteem address emotional fear that affects physical body.