External factors do tend to influence the quality of one's life but we
cannot always control or change our environment. However, having increased
levels of self awareness can change one's destiny. Consciously making efforts
to perceive unfavorable circumstances in a positive light and altering our
attitude towards unexpected negative incidents reduces the impact that such
occurrences have on our existence.
The important thing is to spend more time on
introspection as opposed to wasting time trying to resolve external conflicts
and situations. Introspection is the act of looking within oneself and
identifying one's strengths and weaknesses. Every individual has their own set
of positive and negative traits, so there is no point for a person to
constantly indulge in comparing them self with others around them. Many times,
upon facing hardships or struggles, certain defense mechanisms that are part of
an individual's inherent nature, tend to get unconsciously activated.
In The
Shadows
They no
longer need to stay in the shadows and to watch men achieve what they want to
achieve. Success
If one
was to think about people who are successful, there is a strong chance that
they won't just think about men. Whether one was to think about the people they
know or the people they see in the public eye, they are likely to think about
people from each gender.
It won't
matter what one classes as success; as there will be people out there from both
genders who match up with their definition.
If one
started off with a silver spoon in their mouth, it is not going to be possible
for them to say they are self-made.
Support
If the
financial support wasn't there, it could have meant that one was supported in
others ways. Guidance In the
beginning of their life, they may have been given the guidance that they needed
in order to learn a certain skill. Self-Made
Proud Assistance
One is an
interdependent human being and this means they need other people. This
assistance could have come about through reading books, having different
mentors, speaking to people and taking courses, among others things. Each of
these factors (along with many others) will have played a part in who one has
become and what they have achieved.
Actors
When one
watches a film, they can come to the conclusion that it is all about the
actors. As these are the people who one sees on the big screen, this is to be
expected. The Illusion However,
when people come out and say that they are self-made in daily life, they are
often believed.
